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After growing up in a military family and being inspired by the 1960’s television shows and movies about life in the military, Bob Bach knew he was destined to serve his country. After graduating high school, Bob enlisted in the United States Marine Corps. At the tender age of 17, he began to learn the true colors of war, the emotional impact it would have on his life, and how it differed from what was portrayed in movies. Bob served 10 months in deployed overseas during one of the gruesomest wars our country has faced – the Vietnam War – before returning back to civilian life with an honorable discharge.
Bob joins me again today to share his journey of seeking help and finding resources to address his combat-related PTSD symptoms. He discusses how numbing his emotions after returning home and re-entering civilian life impacted his relationships with his wife, children, and loved ones. He discusses his experience with alcohol abuse, how it added to the distress he was already experiencing after returning home, and how he finally found the help he needed to address his emotions and painful thoughts. Bob also explains why it’s important for veterans and their families to understand that the feelings and emotions they’re experiencing when transitioning from military life to civilian life are normal and why it’s crucial for veterans to ask for help and seeking treatment so they can rebuild a normal, healthy life.
“War, by any number of definitions, is insanity. But where we might trip ourselves up is by thinking that we should apply some notion of normalcy to something that’s insane.” – Bob Bach
This week on the Stigma Free Vet Zone Podcast:
- The challenges Bob experienced with finding resources and services to help with combat-related PTSD
- Keeping up the facade that warriors do not have weaknesses
- How the coping strategy of numbing his emotions that helped Bob survive the Vietnam War later became detrimental to his relationships with his children and loved ones
- Turning to external substances, such as alcohol abuse, to numb the pain
- Finding the support he needed to get his life and relationship back on track and reconnect with his family
- Understanding your thoughts, feelings, and reactions are normal after experiencing trauma while serving your country
- Common reactions and responses to traumatic experiences
- The difference between guilt and shame and why Bob believes the feelings of “survivor’s guilt” are really feelings of ‘survivor’s shame’
- The role of love, nature, and spirituality in the healing process and transitioning back to civilian life
- The importance of reaching out, asking for help, and seeking counseling and/or treatment
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Helping Veterans & Their Families Transition to Civilian Life
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DISCLAIMER: The information and content shared in each episode of the Stigma Free Vet Zone are for informational purposes only. The Stigma Free Vet Zone hosts, Mike Orban & Bob Bach, are not, nor claim to be, medical doctors, psychologists, or psychiatrists and should not be held responsible for any claims, medical advice, or therapy/treatment recommendations mentioned on this podcast. Any advice mentioned or shared by Mike Orban, Bob Bach, or their guests is strictly for purposes of bringing awareness to the veteran community and the services available. Please speak with a medical professional before taking any advice or starting any therapy or treatment discussed or shared on this podcast.